The Westboro Baptist Church (widely recognized as a hate group) showed up to protest at Santa Monica High School this morning. The enthusiastic counter-protest shielded students and sent the discouraged group packing.
On a related note, two more of Phelps’ granddaughters recently defected from the group. Read more here.
Trans* Ally Training (*signifies, within text, an acknowledgment of myriad identities):
The goal of this workshop is to give participants a base knowledge of terminology and identities as well as a solid understanding of trans* ally behavior. Workshops consist of multiple exercises which work through the experiential cycle incorporating time and space for questions, concerns, confusions, and facilitator story telling. Each exercise within the workshop is designed to engage participants in critical thinking and discussion regarding their own identity in relation to trans* identified individuals.
Workshop Facilitator: Kyle Sawyer
Presented via LifeWorks youth empowerment program.
This video is a response by IPG Counseling to the NY Times article: “What’s So Bad About a Boy Who Wants to Wear a Dress?“
The original post was titled “5 years ago, I was disowned via letter when I came out to my father. This is how hate sounds.”
The image has received over a million views. The top-rated response comment reads:
I’m the adoptive dad of a kid who came out when he was about 15. Yeah it’s sometimes difficult when this happens because no parent wants to see a kid we love get hurt – and like it or not – being gay can mean some people will wish you ill simply for who you are.
And that’s hard for any parent. But it’s no excuse.
As an adoptive parent, I’m not my kids “father.” That’s biological. But I am his Dad. Because “Dad” isn’t something that’s actually biological, it’s something you have to earn.
With my son , I started to earn it the day he was born, but it was pretty easy until his second year when he had an accident and got hurt. The doctor in the ER strapped him to the “papoose board” to immobilize him and was about to start stitching up his head when he told me it was time for me to let go of his little hand. He looked up at me and whatever he saw in my face, he instantly said “or you can stay I guess.” I have no clue what he saw, except the fact that getting me to let go of that tiny hand was about as possible one of us jumping up through the ceiling to the moon.
The lesson for me that day is that any idiot can be a father (and clearly many are) but you’ve got to EARN being a Dad.
When my son came out to us, same deal. I was concerned, because I never had to deal with it before in someone I love. But we simply hooked him up with 1 in 10 and went on with our lives.
So here’s the opinion of someone who’s been in your dad’s shoes, but didn’t have his sad mental baggage.
Your dad failed a really huge parenting test. Period.
So now he’s self selected to be your father, but not to be your Dad. That sucks. And the really sad thing is that he has absolutely no freaking clue about the real value of what he’s tossed away.
He’ll always be your father. That’s biology. But biology is fickle. We know this because while he has perhaps passed a lot to you via DNA, he did NOT pass along intolerance or stupidity. He can “disown” you in his brain all he likes, but that doesn’t mean much because he’s already proved that whatever his strengths might be, he’s allowed his thought processes and natural instincts to become seriously flawed. How you feel about him. Hurt, sad, angry, disappointed, that’s yours to shuffle as you see fit.
But trust me, this is about him, not you. I actually hope that someday he gets a change to look deeply in his heart and comes to understand how horribly, terribly he screwed this up. If so, he’ll maybe have a chance to start some personal redemption and healing. But he needs that. You don’t.
Cuz there’s nothing wrong with you. At all.
Stay strong. Take care. The world is changing fast. And for more people than ever, gay and straight, it’s changing more toward love and away from fear – at least in this particular area.
Thank goodness for parents who reach out like this. Read more here.
California State Senate passed SB 1172 today (23 to 13), which would limit licensed health professionals from practicing detrimental “reparative” therapy methods of attempting to convert sexual orientation. These methods would only be allowed with informed consent by adults, and be banned outright for minors.
Make sure you contact your legislators before the bill is heard in the Assembly next month!
More details can be found on the CNN article here.
An article about 5-year-old Tyler and the journey he and his family have traveled.
She went back online and watched videos of parents talking about their realization that their child was transgender. They all described a variation of the conversation sheâ€™d had with Kathryn: â€œWhy did you change me?â€ â€œGod made a mistake with me.â€ â€œSomething went wrong when I was in your belly.â€
You can read the article here.
“After dealing heavily with gay themes since its debut, â€˜Gleeâ€˜ is finally taking on the issues that transgendered teens face. In tonightâ€™s episode, â€˜Saturday Night Glee-ver,â€™ we were introduced to Unique: a transgendered character who is coming to terms with her identity.” You can read the article here.
A recent episode of Becoming Me followed the loving parents of several trans and gender non-conforming children. PFLAG is mentioned as having a supportive influence in their lives.
There are even a few plugs for PFLAG in there.
How one gender-queer foster kid is affected by a foster care system that can’t handle his gender expression: