A church in Indiana has seen about 80 percent of its members leave after a gay choral director was forced out over his sexual orientation.Adam Fraley told The Herald Bulletin that he worked for the United Methodist Church in Alexandria for six years and attended with his partner. When a new minister took over the church last year, Fraley said that he resigned because of pressure about his sexual orientation.
I would not worship a God who is homophobic and that is how deeply I feel about this,â€ he said, by way of denouncing religions that discriminate against gays
Lesbian, gay men, bisexuals and transgender adults are, on the whole, less religious than the general public. About half (48%) say they have no religious affiliation, compared with 20% in the general public; this pattern holds among all age groups. LGBT adults who do have a religious affiliation generally attend worship services less frequently and attach less importance to religion in their lives than do religiously affiliated adults in the general public.
Also, a third (33%) of religiously affiliated LGBT adults say there is a conflict between their religious beliefs and their sexual orientation or gender identity.
“There were times when I wasn’t eating or sleeping,” she said. “I needed to find answers to help him.”
She first bought books from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She was told that her son’s homosexuality was a “choice,” a “popular thing to do,” and a “phase” he would outgrow. “None of that applied to my son,” she said.
Finding nothing that would help her, she turned to the medical community and learned that homosexuality was not a choice but an identity. Eventually, she came across research from the Family Acceptance Project and learned she didn’t have to choose between her faith and her son.
“It felt like a ray of sunshine in the middle of the darkest period of my life,” said Montgomery. “It gave me hope.”
Her husband agreed: “You can’t just leave some void for a young child to [think], ‘God doesn’t have a plan for me anymore,'” Tom Montgomery, 41, says in the documentary. “I need to fill him with purpose. And give him, show him, this is not the end of the world, this is the beginning of your world.”
I never anticipated that coming out as gay would feel this raw, this emotional, this terrifying. It isnâ€™t a fear that life wonâ€™t go on; rather, that life wonâ€™t resolve in some way. The questions and the stereotypes, and fear for all of the relationships I might lose, consume me. I donâ€™t want to lose my friends, and I donâ€™t want my family to hold me at armâ€™s length. I do not want to be the black sheep of the family, or theÂ differentÂ gay brother or son. I want to be me. But having been raised in a conservative religious home, I know these hopes arenâ€™t reasonable. Living in the culture of the â€œBible Beltâ€ makes the prospect of feeling simultaneously normal and gay likely impossible. I cannot imagine what coming out would be like if I were really gay. One year may seem like a long time, but a lifetime would be more than I could ever adjust to.
Seeking Empathy, Straight Christian Posed as Gay for a Year: VIDEO
Timothy Kurek grew up a devout Christian, projecting the beliefs he was taught, that homosexuality was a sin, onto others. Until one day a friend confessed to him that her family had disowned her for being gay.
Kurek has written a book about how he “found Jesus” by getting to know what it was like to walk in a gay man’s shoes, he tells ABC News:
“I feel God really kicked me in the gut,” he said. “She was crying in my arms and instead of being there for her, I was thinking about all the arguments to convert her.”
Kurek’s reaction ate away at him, and he wondered what it felt like to be gay and so alone. So even though Kurek identifies as straight, he embarked on what one religious writer called “spiritual espionage.” He would live like a gay man for a year.
“It finally clicked,” he said. “I needed to empathize and understand.”
Now 26 and no longer homophobic, Kurek writes about his journey — one that included hanging out in gay bars and facing the disappointment of his family and rejection of his friends — in his memoir, “The Cross in the Closet.”
I knew what it was to be a Christian in the closet. From 2006-2008, I was the host of a syndicated Christian TV show averaging 200,000 viewers a week. That ended after I watched a documentary titled â€œFor the Bible Tells Me So,â€ a 2007 documentary that explains how the Bible has been wrongly interpreted to condemn LGBT people and same-sex relationships. That movie was the first gay-affirming message I actually listened to and understood, and it helped me unlearn decades of bad theology and scriptural misinterpretations.
This Is The Gay-Inclusive Democratic Platform Language
We already know that the Democratic Party will be drafting marriage equality into their official platform, but we haven’t be able to see the specific language.
Until now, because BuzzFeed’s Chris Geidner worked his magic and got the wording from a committee member.
Here it is:
We support the right of all families to have equal respect, responsibilities, and protections under the law. We support marriage equality and support the movement to secure equal treatment under law for same-sex couples. We also support the freedom of churches and religious entities to decide how to administer marriage as a religious sacrament without government interference.
We oppose discriminatory federal and state constitutional amendments and other attempts to deny equal protection of the laws to committed same-sex couples who seek the same respect and responsibilities as other married couples. We support the full repeal of the so-called Defense of Marriage Act and the passage of the Respect for Marriage Act.
This puts further heat on the Log Cabin Republicans to have something to show for their efforts on the GOP platform.
This link leads to a funny, poignant personal essay from Kevin Kloosterman, an outspoken advocate for LGBT rights who also happens to be an ex-Bishop in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. He came out as an ally to LGBTfolk two years ago, when he was still Bishopping. Life got weird, fast.
Kloosterman was not always an ally. He was turnedÂ into one by Queer Eye For The Straight Guy.Â Kloosterman describes his transformation like so:
I would watch the show and imagine what it would be like for them to be in a Mormon bishopâ€™s home, which is probably considered the heart of enemy territory by some in the gay community since Proposition 8. There was something about the spirit of these men that seemed to break barriers of orientation, politics, and even religion. Perhaps like every other fan, I considered them to be more familiar than reality would dictate. Then something that Carson said in his cheeky manner struck me like a thunderbolt. He said, â€œWe are very pro traditional marriage.â€ Those words echoed in my mind for months and months. It seemed to disrupt and challenge a deeply held belief that the traditional family was under attack by a so called â€œgay agenda.â€
That belief was dismantled at that moment and I realized that these good men had no desire to hurt me, my marriage, or my family. On the contrary, if they were in my home, I could only see them supporting me, my traditional marriage, and my family.